Men's Mental Health

Gender inequality break the bias

Since the first glimpses on history, it has become a tradition for a man to be responsible, productive, and to serve as a backbone for the family he is providing for. A chip on the shoulder of men, it's rare when someone asks about a man's mental health, and if they do it's hard for men to answer and share their inner feelings, as the society would consider them as a failure. This leaves some men to resort to doing drugs, alcohol, and various harmful ways to let their feelings off their chests.

How do you think this issue could be resolved? And what would you say to the men suffering from this?

Comments (91)

  • Olivia-Avatar.jpg Olivia @ Topical Talk
    11 Mar 2022

    A short post, but one that starts an original and important new discussion. Bias against men's mental health is very problematic and you're right that it can lead to serious consequences. You ask some great questions so I look forward to reading the comments from the rest of Topical Talk.

    1. British Council.jpg placid_guitar | Jabalia Prep Girls A School | Occupied Palestinian Territory
      Olivia @ Topical Talk's comment 16 Mar 2022

      Everyone believes that men have a strong personality that no one can defeat. There is nothing wrong with this talk, but they certainly also have a bad, broken mentality or a sour mood, due to the neglect of their feelings, so some of them resort to doing dangerous and harmful things, both physically and psychologically, such as: drug abuse and drinking alcohol, This, of course, negatively affects society, as a man may become nervous and use physical or verbal violence against women or children, and thus the whole society will be affected by this behavior, which is drug and alcohol abuse. If I send my message to men: - You are a conscious and understanding person and you must You know how dangerous this behavior is, and please listen to some of my advice, first: - Volunteer and devote some of your energy to helping someone else and you will feel great relief through giving, - Do sports, walk in nature or play with your pet, - Try to make changes in your daily routine, - make time for your family, for sure there is someone who takes into account your feelings, whether it is your wife or one of your children, - talk to your parents, they have many experiences in life, and they certainly have tips and words that make you well, - try to talk with those who have gone through your experience and succeeded In getting over it, -Learn as How to deal with anxiety, -Determine what you want to achieve academically, professionally and personally, and write down the steps you need to achieve your goals, -The most important thing is to avoid alcohol and drugs because they will pose a great danger to you, your loved one, and all people.

      1. British Council.jpg willing_imagination | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
        placid_guitar's comment 18 Mar 2022

        This may be true, but from what I see around me from the man's treatment of women, even if he is weak, he always seeks to reduce the ability of women and that she is a creature found only for housework, and because many men do not accept that his wife be his boss at work

  • St Michael's Middle School devoted_buffalo | St Michael's Middle School A | United Kingdom
    11 Mar 2022

    Men's mental health matters just as much as women's mental health. Men are often told to "Man up" or "Stop acting like a girl" or "Real men don't cry". These can be offensive to both men and women because it also shows that society labels women as people who cry a lot. We need to start promoting the fact that men should be able to have feelings without being put down.

    1. British Council.jpg noble_dinosaur | Kfarhatta Secondary Public School | Lebanon
      devoted_buffalo's comment 11 Mar 2022

      Loved the comparison, which totally makes sense! And totally in agreement with what we must do.

      1. British Council.jpg dedicated_maths | State Experimental Basic 2 School | Ghana
        noble_dinosaur's comment 17 Mar 2022

        What you just said is a reasonable statement and I also agree with you.👍👍👍

    2. British Council.jpg strong_bird | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
      devoted_buffalo's comment 11 Mar 2022

      Yes, that's right, and I agree with everything you said

    3. British Council.jpg willing_imagination | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
      devoted_buffalo's comment 16 Mar 2022

      I liked the comparison you made, but I would like to clarify something, which is that the difference between men and women in expressing their feelings is that emotional women have quick appearance, unlike men who try to hide it, believing that this is a kind of weakness and the prevailing idea in society that men do not cry under the phrase (You are a man Although I believe that this has bad repercussions on mental and physical health

    4. British Council.jpg dedicated_maths | State Experimental Basic 2 School | Ghana
      devoted_buffalo's comment 17 Mar 2022

      What prompted you to say men's are often told to act like a man.

      1. British Council.jpg willing_imagination | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
        dedicated_maths's comment 23 Mar 2022

        His words are true, I will give you a small example. When a young child grows up, parents start giving advice to him. You are a man like your father. You must act like men.You have to act like men, and if he is exposed to a situation in which he needs to cry, the first thing he is told is that men do not cry.

      2. St Michael's Middle School devoted_buffalo | St Michael's Middle School A | United Kingdom
        dedicated_maths's comment 01 Apr 2022

        It is often seen that men are told to hide there feelings, and also from experience in haveing a brother.

    5. British Council.jpg generous_lychee | Makini Academy | Kenya
      devoted_buffalo's comment 18 Mar 2022

      This is true, we should not distreat any gender because that will be gender inequality and an fairness.

  • British Council.jpg motivated_camel | Rhemaville Christian Academy | Nigeria
    11 Mar 2022

    I think that the idea that men ought to be tough and unfeeling spawns from the popular belief that men are physically superior to women. People expect the so called "physical superiority" of men to reflect itself in their mental health and unfortunately mental health and emotions don't work that way. On average, the tall, bulky man with a deep voice is a deep voice is expected to be tough and stoic towards emotional things while the slim and probably short man is expected to have a melancholic temperament. The stoic nature that most societies expect of men force some individuals to remain silent even if they are facing serious mental challenges such as depression. According to Wikipedia, two-thirds of all suicide victims are male which accounts for about 1.5% of the total deaths around the world. I reason that the increased suicidal tendencies of males emerge from their inability to properly convey emotions due to the bindings of societal expectations.
    What then can we do to solve this problem. For one, enlightenment has always served a vital role served a vital role in the fight against gender inequality and I believe it will play a similarly effective role in telling the general public that not all male individuals have the same personality and also that each persons personality is one of the things that make him or her special. I will also like to hear what opinion of the house is on solutions top the problem at hand.

    1. British Council.jpg noble_dinosaur | Kfarhatta Secondary Public School | Lebanon
      motivated_camel's comment 11 Mar 2022

      True! And in my opinion men with bigger physical structure tend to suffer more as they are expected to be tough just as u mentioned, well done!

    2. British Council.jpg strong_bird | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
      motivated_camel's comment 14 Mar 2022

      That's a very good thought, and I think like you said, my dear

    3. British Council.jpg willing_imagination | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
      motivated_camel's comment 23 Mar 2022

      I don't know if what you are saying is well founded, but what I do know is that the United Nations estimates that more than 130 million girls and women have undergone female genital mutilation in what is known as female genital mutilation, especially in Africa and some countries in the Middle East.

  • British Council.jpg daring_raccoon | Rhemaville Christian Academy | Nigeria
    11 Mar 2022

    I feel that men's mental health is very important. It is stereotypical that people think men don't feel pain and can overcome any problem but that's very wrong, the health status of the men matter as much as the women and so the men should also be given attention. I feel that men tend to hide their feelings because they will be tagged as "weak" but everyone has feelings and they should express how they feel. I advise that men facing this problem should speak up when they have a problem so it can be taken care of.

    1. British Council.jpg noble_dinosaur | Kfarhatta Secondary Public School | Lebanon
      daring_raccoon's comment 11 Mar 2022

      Yeahh exactly! And do you have in mind where a man can find a caring environment where he can speak up his feelings?

    2. British Council.jpg generous_lychee | Makini Academy | Kenya
      daring_raccoon's comment 13 Mar 2022

      That is very true we should be concerned about men's health. This will stop men smoking and taking harmful drugs

      1. tom Tom @ Topical Talk
        generous_lychee's comment 14 Mar 2022

        Will it stop this entirely, or just make a difference?

        1. British Council.jpg strong_bird | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
          Tom @ Topical Talk's comment 14 Mar 2022

          If the whole world stops not taking drugs and civilized pills and not smoking, this will make a big difference in the world and society

        2. British Council.jpg generous_lychee | Makini Academy | Kenya
          Tom @ Topical Talk's comment 26 Apr 2022

          Well it won't stop completely but it will reduce isn't that better than increasing.

    3. British Council.jpg willing_imagination | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
      daring_raccoon's comment 16 Mar 2022

      Usually a man does not reveal his feelings and is severe in his dealings in most matters, especially with his wife, from the point that this may give a reason for the woman to take advantage of these feelings to achieve goals and interests for her. In some societies, the reason for hiding feelings may be the social customs inherited from the ancestors that the man is A man and a woman are not allowed to have an opinion or influence over his decisions

      1. British Council.jpg strong_bird | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
        willing_imagination's comment 17 Mar 2022

        Yes, and this sometimes causes the fatal disease of the man because of heart attacks, the purpose of which is to conceal feelings

        1. katie.jpg Katie @ Topical Talk
          strong_bird's comment 17 Mar 2022

          Can you show some evidence for this claim please, strong_bird?

          1. British Council.jpg strong_bird | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
            Katie @ Topical Talk's comment 17 Mar 2022

            Yes, of course, concealing feelings causes tears to fall unobtrusively. The meaning is that there is no one to express their feelings to, and this causes sickness in the heart and leads to cases of death.

  • British Council.jpg jocular_explanation | Rhemaville Christian Academy | Nigeria
    11 Mar 2022

    In as much as men are stereotyped to be the strong ones and women the weaker ones, I believe that everyone's mental health is equally important, we need each other's support to move forward.

    1. British Council.jpg noble_dinosaur | Kfarhatta Secondary Public School | Lebanon
      jocular_explanation's comment 11 Mar 2022

      Definitely, life is a puzzle and mutual support between the two genders is the key to having a comfortable life!

      1. British Council.jpg willing_imagination | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
        noble_dinosaur's comment 16 Mar 2022

        If we want to have a comfortable life, there must be gender equality, so that every person feels that he enjoys his rights.

    2. British Council.jpg strong_bird | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
      jocular_explanation's comment 14 Mar 2022

      Certainly, life needs both sexes to complete each other, because there are functions that each sex can do that the other sex cannot do.

    3. British Council.jpg willing_imagination | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
      jocular_explanation's comment 19 Mar 2022

      Certainly, my friend, this is important that we support each other to reduce the distance between the sexes and open new horizons for achieving justice and equality

  • British Council.jpg dazzling_meerkat | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
    11 Mar 2022

    I think that the reason for the use of alcohol and drugs among men is because they suffer from psychological pressure and cannot talk so that others do not think that they are weak, but we can help them by raising awareness about this issue through its health and psychological damage.

    1. avatar.jpg Alice @ KPMG
      dazzling_meerkat's comment 14 Mar 2022

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts @dazzling_meerkat.
      You say that you think that the use of drugs and alcohol in men could be related to psychological problems, can you find some evidence to support your statement?

  • British Council.jpg willing_imagination | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
    11 Mar 2022

    If the husband is bossy, what forces the wife to put up with? Who gave him the right to be beaten, insulted and reprimanded?

  • British Council.jpg aware_painting | Shouka Prep Girls School | Occupied Palestinian Territory
    12 Mar 2022

    The mental problems of men, usually talking about it is somewhat embarrassing and the space allowed for discussion is very narrow, as men often adhere to silence, stubbornness and social isolation without revealing their psychological problems. The treatment of this problem lies with the (health care) that provides services them without bias, so that their problem does not become more complex, which affects mainly in finding ways to deal with the mental health of men, and the main and most influential role is on the part of (the family), which must provide support and sympathy to those suffering from family members, and treat them as a normal person And that they do not see him as a disgrace that causes a bad reputation for them, and he must be encouraged to reveal his problem so that he can obtain appropriate care, and the role of (the media) cannot be hidden in being more sympathetic to men in this matter and not portraying their problem as related By killing, revenge and death, this matter leads to many consequences, including the alienation of people from them for fear of themselves, and many may be tempted to hide the disease for fear of people looking at them and then not receiving the necessary care, so the media should be a pleasure Kindness a little with them in order to raise their morale and their ability to confront and challenge the disease, we must get this problem out of the social pattern, customs and traditions that it considers a defect, and that all frameworks of society face that problem, support the affected people and integrate them into society more to confront them with strength and challenge with encouragement.. ..

    1. British Council.jpg noble_dinosaur | Kfarhatta Secondary Public School | Lebanon
      aware_painting's comment 14 Mar 2022

      Such a thorough explanation of the keys to this problem, well provided!

  • British Council.jpg successful_globe | Maghazi Prep Girls B | Occupied Palestinian Territory
    12 Mar 2022

    This problem may be solved, by giving the man opportunities to express his feelings, and this may help in developing their mental health.

    1. British Council.jpg noble_dinosaur | Kfarhatta Secondary Public School | Lebanon
      successful_globe's comment 14 Mar 2022

      And where do you think it's possible for a man to do so?

      1. tom Tom @ Topical Talk
        noble_dinosaur's comment 14 Mar 2022

        Great question, noble_dinosaur!

      2. British Council.jpg fabulous_flight | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
        noble_dinosaur's comment 14 Mar 2022

        In his home, of course, because every woman must contain her husband and appreciate what he does for the family

        1. tom Tom @ Topical Talk
          fabulous_flight's comment 14 Mar 2022

          What does the word "contain" mean here?

          1. British Council.jpg fabulous_flight | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
            Tom @ Topical Talk's comment 14 Mar 2022

            A word containing means to lighten the burden of his day for him with kind words and good treatment, not by screaming and complaining about children and life.

      3. British Council.jpg successful_globe | Maghazi Prep Girls B | Occupied Palestinian Territory
        noble_dinosaur's comment 14 Mar 2022

        I do not expect that there is a specific place, but if we cooperate together to provide these means for the man, this might happen. Do you think there is a place where this might happen???, and what are the other ways to do this???

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      successful_globe's comment 21 Mar 2022

      So where do you esteem it's likely for a certain man to do so.

  • British Council.jpg successful_globe | Maghazi Prep Girls B | Occupied Palestinian Territory
    12 Mar 2022

    We must tell a man not to be influenced by the words of society, and to remain a bond for his family

  • British Council.jpg mindful_grape | Ramallah Basic Girl School | Occupied Palestinian Territory
    13 Mar 2022

    I totally agree ,and as a women myself i hear a lot of comments when i talk about how I'm feeling and they all strongly center about period and hormones,it is true that hormones effect the mental stability but it's gotten to the point i can't chare my feeling without having a comment of that sort .

    1. British Council.jpg noble_dinosaur | Kfarhatta Secondary Public School | Lebanon
      mindful_grape's comment 14 Mar 2022

      Yes! It's actually a problem that e
      affects both genders, however centers on males in my opinion.

  • British Council.jpg brilliant_tree | Ramallah Basic Girl School | Occupied Palestinian Territory
    13 Mar 2022

    Yes, mental health is very important for a man, because the man, as you said, is the foundation of the family, and I agree with you with this sentence. The mother and father are the foundation of the family, and each of them has many responsibilities and works, but I think that the man is the one who carries more things, because I will say in general that most men In the world they are the ones who work in the same family, they struggle for their families and their families and are very tired to get what we want and I appreciate them all, and the closest example I can say is my wonderful father, he struggles and works hard to bring us what we want and satisfy us even the simplest things, I appreciate him And I try to relieve him of his fatigue when he comes back from work. My father is a wonderful man and he is a role model for me and I love him so much, because he is a man who does not know the meaning of surrendering to life, but rather he tries and struggles with all his strength, and every day I try to return this favor that he gave me throughout My life, even if it is the simplest things but I try to add a wonderful flavor to make it more beautiful.
    In my opinion, we are the ones who make the difference in a man's life, and it is not a condition if a man has many concerns that he take these things and they are like smoking...
    There is no benefit from it, neither for the man himself nor for the people around him, on the contrary, it harms himself and others. For example, we have to relieve him of it, believe me in the simplest way. We make a beautiful difference in it, meaning that when he comes back from a very tiring work, we can bring him a care session for example and try this and he will really like it With it and so on, so my friends and everyone who reads my comment don't forget you are the one who makes the difference, you can make something simple from something wonderful.

    1. tom Tom @ Topical Talk
      brilliant_tree's comment 14 Mar 2022

      Thank you for this very personal and heartfelt comment, brilliant_tree.

    2. British Council.jpg fabulous_flight | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
      brilliant_tree's comment 14 Mar 2022

      And I really agree with you, my father also goes early in the morning to work and comes back in the evening busy and we help my mother prepare the meals and sweets that he loves and also we do not tire him

    3. British Council.jpg confident_imagination | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
      brilliant_tree's comment 15 Mar 2022

      Your comment is beautiful and sincere

  • British Council.jpg fabulous_flight | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
    14 Mar 2022

    If the comforts are available at home, this problem will be solved by each woman containing her husband and also helping him in his work if he needs it. For example, if the husband is a teacher, the woman can help her husband in correcting the exam or entering the marks on the computer

    1. avatar.jpg James @ KPMG
      fabulous_flight's comment 16 Mar 2022

      Thank you, fabulous_flight. Others being supportive can help, and you give an excellent example of this, but what else could he do?

  • British Council.jpg incomparable_antelope | Pentecost School Madina | Ghana
    14 Mar 2022

    'This leaves some men to resort to doing drugs, alcohol, and various harmful ways to let their feelings off their chests.''' are really sure about this!!!!!!!!

    1. British Council.jpg strong_bird | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
      incomparable_antelope's comment 14 Mar 2022

      Yes, this is harmful to his health

  • British Council.jpg incomparable_antelope | Pentecost School Madina | Ghana
    14 Mar 2022

    sorry are you really sure about this!!!!!!

    1. British Council.jpg noble_dinosaur | Kfarhatta Secondary Public School | Lebanon
      incomparable_antelope's comment 14 Mar 2022

      Definitely, based on scientific researches, on how men are the dominant gender in prison, have mental illness, and so on....

  • British Council.jpg placid_emotion | Ramallah Basic Girl School | Occupied Palestinian Territory
    14 Mar 2022

    Society see men as the "tough, strong and unbeatable creatures", and doesn't care about the fact that men are humans after all, they have emotions and feelings, that should be cared of before it turns to any serious mental illness.
    And since men's feelings aren't cared of, they mostly try to get their rage/negative feelings out by doing harmful things towards their selves, such as self-harm (any kind of it), drugs, alcohol, etc., And it might turn to harmful things towards other people, what i mean is; humans often reflect the behaviours they were taught growing-up, so at this situation, men who's feelings was hidden forcibly ,will pass the issue to the next generations, through violence, emotional abuse, unhealthy "masculine" social boundaries and (again) any kind of abuse. So the problem will still be ongoing, and many kids will suffer, too.
    And, because men were taught they're "in control", they'll earn some kind of "ego" and see their selves "better" than the other gender (which will of course have a negative effect on women from many life sides) – by the way, that's just one of the possibilities, some might form a weak and insecure personality because of forcing emotions in, it just depends on the person.
    The most important part: how can we solve all of this? First of all, we have to figure out the cause of the problem, i made this into a "chain"; 1-society, i think it's the main reason because it's the source of stereotypes, and is who made up "gender rules" at the first place.
    2- family, the problem here is that the family listens to society's opinion and raise their boys the way society tells them to.
    3- men themselves, because they listen to what family taught them, probably knowing it's wrong, and passing it to the next generations.
    Second of all, spreading awareness about the issue, there are many ways to do this, social media, tv shows, talking about it in schools or with friends/family/relatives. Because personal awareness leads to global awareness by the time, and if that happened perhaps there will be a big step forward.
    Last but not least, start the change with YOU, rethink what you hear from society, raise your children right, and stand against anything you find even slightly wrong.
    And i just want to say to any man that go through this; you're heard and supported, and your feelings are important, keep fighting.

    1. katie.jpg Katie @ Topical Talk
      placid_emotion's comment 15 Mar 2022

      This is an interesting analysis that shows some good problem-solving! Just one thing to make it even better - next time, try using phrases like "some men" and "sometimes" rather than discussing "men" in general. This helps to show that you are talking generally rather than saying that every single man experiences life and mental health in the same way. For example, there are lots of men who do not experience the problems you mentioned.

  • British Council.jpg victorious_sparrow | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
    15 Mar 2022

    If the man is of sound mind, we will not face risks between the sexes

    1. katie.jpg Katie @ Topical Talk
      victorious_sparrow's comment 15 Mar 2022

      Can you explain what you mean?

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        Katie @ Topical Talk's comment 20 Mar 2022

        What is meant by this is that the man should have a liberal thought, he has no problem with his equality with women, he accepts the partner and participation, he is convinced that community development will not appear except with the efforts of the two sexes, as long as the thought has developed, and evolutionary and participatory ideas entered him, and respect for the opposite sex will remain easy to reach equality, The difficulty lies in the beginning, which is to change the beliefs planted by societies and traditions. Rebellion against them and their masculine principles, and getting out of the quagmire of societal ignorance, builds another world of success with the efforts of both parties..

  • British Council.jpg incredible_trumpet | Rhemaville Christian Academy | Nigeria
    15 Mar 2022

    In my opinion men's mental health is of dire importance but there is really no bias towards this aspect because right from time men have always been taught to be the strong ones who never fall sick, besides most times the issue of mental health is always attributed to women because we are often seen as weak ones who get emotional and express ourselves unnecessarily making them view us vulnerable but unlike men who tend to never express their feelings and are always mute even though sometimes men are given opportunities to express their feelings which may help in developing their mental health but they blatantly refuse aid rather they rely on alcohol and drugs to cope with their depression rather than talking about it.
    Most men fear that if they are confronted about their mental health they will be restricted to performing some duties and even though its for their own benefit they refuse forgetting that sometimes everyone needs a shoulder to lie on. There are some hidden things men suffer like loneliness, self doubt, lack of direction, sexual temptation and others and since we live in a society where people are mocked for being weak they tend not to talk not even to their wives. Most women fail to understand this and tend to say their spouse is keeping secrets or he is not opening up but everyone forgets that even though we are all working and fighting for equality the men carry the load and stress of the family and if the foundation is not strong other support systems will fail.
    There is really no cure to this situation as men already have a particular stereotype but help can be gotten from the home front especially from family and friends showing that they care even about the littlest things, wives should be supportive and not ask anything that may cause him to be angry or agitated. Another hidden fact about men is that they like it when their children welcome them home from a stressful day of work it makes the day worthwhile. When all this is done it will reduce the level of depression and increase mental stability for men.

    1. tom Tom @ Topical Talk
      incredible_trumpet's comment 15 Mar 2022

      When you say there is no cure for this situation - there is certainly a lot can be done about it, isn't there? What might these be?

    2. British Council.jpg noble_dinosaur | Kfarhatta Secondary Public School | Lebanon
      incredible_trumpet's comment 16 Mar 2022

      But don't u think that if since a young age males are taught that they are strongest, smartest, productive... Creates an unconscious bias towards the obligation of being so?

      1. British Council.jpg incredible_trumpet | Rhemaville Christian Academy | Nigeria
        noble_dinosaur's comment 16 Mar 2022

        yes it does so it would be best if the males are made to believe otherwise which is a possible way to curb this stereotype.

      2. British Council.jpg willing_imagination | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
        noble_dinosaur's comment 17 Mar 2022

        Yes, I think so, and this is what makes society masculine par excellence. When the child learns that he is the strongest, this makes him treat the girl as having to implement what he asks for without discussion.

  • British Council.jpg champion_elephant | Rhemaville Christian Academy | Nigeria
    15 Mar 2022

    Society see men as the tough, strong and stoic creatures, and doesn't care about the fact that men are humans that have emotions and feelings, that should be cared of before it turns to any serious mental illness.
    And since men's feelings aren't cared of, they mostly try to get their negative feelings out by doing harmful things towards their selves, such as self-harm smoking, drugs, alcohol and others and it might make them violent towards other people, what I mean is; humans often reflect the behaviors they were taught growing-up, so at this situation, men who's feelings was hidden ,will pass the horrible habit to the next generations, through violence, emotional abuse, unhealthy "male" social boundaries. So the problem will still be ongoing, and many kids for years to come will go through the same trauma.
    And, because men were taught they're "in control", they'll earn some kind of "ego" and see their selves "better" than the other gender (which will of course have a negative effect on women), some might form a weak and insecure personality because of forcing emotions in, it actually depends on the type of person and how they grew up.
    How can we solve all of this? Firstly, we have to figure out the cause of the problem.
    1. Society, I think it's the main reason because it's the source of stereotypes, and is who made up all these silly rules the first place
    2- family, the problem here is that the family listens to society's opinion because everyone wants to trend they do not want to be different so they raise boys to be hard, stoic creatures void of emotion
    3- men, I mean whoever told men that they have tp listen to what society has to say about them personally that idea is backward if you ask me.
    Second of all, spreading awareness about the issue, there are many ways to do this, social media, talk shows, newspapers, local interviews talking about it in schools I could go on but I think my point is made. Because personal awareness leads to societal awareness and that leads to global awareness by the time, and when that happens we will see more progress than ever before.
    Also, the change starts with YOU, think about what you hear from society, raise children the way they are supposed to grow not the way society thinks it should be, and stand against anything you find wrong.
    Also, any man going through this there will always be some sort of hiding place when you need to express how you feel deeply.

  • British Council.jpg easygoing_flower | Kfarhatta Secondary Public School | Lebanon
    15 Mar 2022

    Men and emotions are an unlovable story. If a man showed emotions, emotions of "weakness, like crying or asking for help because he's tired, oh god what a shame. We as a society are the main cause of "toxic masculinity" that is related to gender inequality and let me tell you why.
    It starts from childhood, like all long lasting things does. Little boys are told NOT TO CRY because "you are a man and a man doesn't cry". It sinks deep and it becomes a belief. Later on in life, boys become men, battling to silence their emotions because "men don't cry". It's a lot of pressure. Tears and sadness becomes anger, anger becomes a desire for dominance, and this desire is all where bias against women starts.
    Men are expected to be strong all the time like the whole world depends on it. How we expect to achieve equality between a man and a woman if we treat the man like the main character and the hero who puts everyone's needs before his?
    Let's talk about men's mental health. I'm serious. You right now reading my comment: go set down with your father, brother or your "always angry" friend. Ask them small questions and let them talk, let them let it all out, let them cry. After that, they will bloom like flowers in spring after a rough cold winter.

    1. British Council.jpg noble_dinosaur | Kfarhatta Secondary Public School | Lebanon
      easygoing_flower's comment 16 Mar 2022

      Exactly! It all starts from a young age that develops into an issue that effects various things that are all related to each other.

      1. British Council.jpg willing_imagination | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
        noble_dinosaur's comment 16 Mar 2022

        Do you mean that this begins with the child at home from a young age until he grows up with his years, and that parents have a great role in determining the behavior of their children? And that they are responsible for the child's bias and development? I would like to clarify what you mean that since childhood.

  • British Council.jpg confident_imagination | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
    15 Mar 2022

    1 This problem can be solved if we reach the feelings of the heart that stem from within it. But we should not enter into the topic directly. We must move in the conversation until we reach the heart of the topic, or to transfer the 'essence and summary of the talk'. 2 I tell those who suffer from this problem to be strong and not be defeated quickly and to stay away from drugs and alcohol and these things...

  • British Council.jpg victorious_sparrow | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
    15 Mar 2022

    Thank you for your small post

  • British Council.jpg quiet_rainforest | State Experimental Basic 2 School | Ghana
    16 Mar 2022

    Men's mental health is good way of expressing emotions so if 👀 are

  • St Michael's Middle School idealistic_volcano | St Michael's Middle School A | United Kingdom
    16 Mar 2022

    When men open up about there mental health they are mostly ignored but when woman open up they are then in a way aloud to cry but if a man is crying most people make fun of him. To make it equal for men and woman and make them feel like they can open up i think that men should be reminded they are aloud to explain how they are feeling. Normally peopl say men hav to be 'tough' and they dont have the right to be upset because they have a family to look after or a bussiness to run. This is really wrong in so many ways, no matter your gender or sexuality or race you feelings matter and should not be invailidated. When a man or boy is acting up or angry all the time try asking them how they are because normally they aren't really angry and they arent enjoying 'acting up' its just because they are trying to explain how they are upset and whats really going on, a cry for help in a way.

    1. avatar.jpg James @ KPMG
      idealistic_volcano's comment 16 Mar 2022

      Thank you for your comment, idealistic_volcano. How would you encourage men to open up and talk? Who do you think would be best for them to talk to?

  • British Council.jpg independent_technology | Jabalia Prep Girls A School | Occupied Palestinian Territory
    16 Mar 2022

    Hello !
    You say it is difficult for men to answer and share their inner feelings.
    I think that this problem exists between the two parties, but the party (men) "cannot" answer
    But women or females in general are “able” to answer, but there is something called (society) that does not want them to answer..!
    From this point many challenges begin for the female, the most dangerous of which are:

    1_ Mental challenges: meaning that girls suffer from low self-esteem problems due to the mistreatment of them by the opposite sex. Some people experience what some call an "inferiority complex" in which they feel inferior to the opposite sex. This can be very harmful, sometimes even more so than physical challenges because it damages not only the mind, but the behavior and even the outlook on the life of the people involved...!

    2_ Physical challenges: People can suffer from violence such as beatings, which are also suffered due to inequality. This is specific to the female who is considered the "weaker vessel or the weaker sex"...!

    3_ Social challenges: Most people suffer from the denial of the girl’s right to education, freedom of movement, and a lack of job opportunities, which leads to the feeling that “they have no benefit to life” ..!, which is due to the society’s belief that females are unqualified and undeserving...!

    1. tom Tom @ Topical Talk
      independent_technology's comment 17 Mar 2022

      Thank you for sharing this! Are there similar challenges that men face?

  • British Council.jpg eager_statement | Rhemaville Christian Academy | Nigeria
    16 Mar 2022

    In my own understanding of this context on men's mental health is that men also have feelings so it is wrong and more hurtful to say they don't have feelings. Also, I have noticed something with men and that is music is there only answer to their problem and the reason I am saying that is that because they don't want to be criticized that they do not want to weak therefore they listen to music to solve their problem and I don't thing that is mentally healthy.so I feel it could be resolved but it will make even more time than stopping biasness in the women sector. I think that women have a large part to play in men's mental health and that is stop criticizing but give a listening ear to them .

    1. tom Tom @ Topical Talk
      eager_statement's comment 17 Mar 2022

      It's also important to remember that the cause of poor mental health in men is not just being "criticised" by women - and everyone has a role to play. Also, would it be more accurate to say music is one of the ways that some people cope - rather than say it is the only answer to men's problems?

  • British Council.jpg eager_statement | Rhemaville Christian Academy | Nigeria
    17 Mar 2022

    I agree with you and thank you for the correction.

  • British Council.jpg tranquil_rock | Rhemaville Christian Academy | Nigeria
    17 Mar 2022

    yes, men are considered invincible and this is a big problem because, in my country Nigeria some men avoid going to the hospital to keep their "macho" image and end up compounding simple issues that could have easily been solved if they had just gone earlier.
    This image also makes it difficult for them to maintain relationships, in my country a truly "macho" man does not share what he is thinking with anyone especially not his spouse which cause them to deliberately oppress their spouse to keep that image going.
    This is detrimental to their mental health and the worst part is most of them do not realize it

  • British Council.jpg fearless_mulberry | Makini Academy | Kenya
    17 Mar 2022

    Studies from all over the world show that men find it difficult to open up about 'mental health', even though they are significantly more at risk of attempting sui*ide than women and girls. So we should try to make them feel comfortable talking about things that worry them. Let them know they are loved

    1. British Council.jpg rational_grape | Makini Academy | Kenya
      fearless_mulberry's comment 18 Mar 2022

      That is so true fearless_mulberry and I know someone who was affected by this. It was my neighbor. He was so productive more than the wife in the house. He was taken as the breadwinner and decided to keep with it knowing it will affect him. He carried lots of burdens and stress was always in him. This can be broken if we help each other in doing business. This will result in more productive people in society.

  • British Council.jpg outspoken_shrimp | Marka Prep. Girls School 2 | Jordan
    20 Mar 2022

    First, I want to tell the man that you do not care about what people say, but rather your life is more important. Do not destroy your life with your own hands, taking drugs and drinking alcohol. This does not affect your psyche, but rather your life.I think the right time to get married is when a man is conscious and not when he is 20 years old I want to say that a man must be conscious to be able to take responsibility I hope all men do not care about people's words because people's words will not benefit them in anything, but rather care about their lives and think about wisdom and do not rush to take any decision and take your time ❤️

  • British Council.jpg affable_revolution | Rhemaville Christian Academy | Nigeria
    23 Mar 2022

    Speaking on the topic "Gender Bias", a lot of issues have been raised concerning the unequal treatment of women to men. First lets take a look at the issue on ground, the topic of Gender bias in all sectors considering the work places such as the hospitals and other places of public gathering should be well looked into. When we say we are fighting for gender equality we shouldn't develop the mindset that in all that goes on in life, women are the least considered. This is because we are fighting to attain equilibrium and not to completely phase out the men.

  • British Council.jpg responsible_flight | Pentecost School Madina | Ghana
    24 Mar 2022

    First we should give them some time to relax and let them to get it of their chest

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